The State of Dads, part 1

Great viewpoint by Mary Jacobs in the Dallas Morning News this morning on the state of fatherhood today…especially with regards to how dads are portrayed in popular culture. Click here to read it. Then, sound off.

Dr. Tim Spivey is Lead Planter of New Vintage Church in San Diego, California. He is the author of numerous articles and one book, "Jesus: The Powerful Servant." A sought after speaker for events, Tim also serves as Adjunct Professor of Religion at Pepperdine University. Tim serves as a church consultant, and his writings are featured on ChurchLeaders.com, Church Executive magazine, Faith Village, Sermon Central, and Giving Rocket.

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  1. Had to laugh at the fact that Fathers’ Day is the biggest day for collect calls in the U.S. Got to be a preacher’s story in that somewhere.
    All in all, I agree with the author. I’d only make one amendment. Children need a balance, with both an emotional bond on the one hand, and a demand for performance on the other. I’m not as attached to the idea that the emotional bond HAS to be the mother and the performance relationship HAS to be the father. Both parents need to display these qualities to varying degrees.
    And just a quick “hang on a second” to Tim Perkins’ comment. Daycare is a great alternative for women who feel called to the workplace. I’m not advocating a complete abstention from parental duties; kids come first. But some of us (yes, I said US, meaning me) parent best when we have regular breaks from our kids (again, regular breaks–not complete absence). And there is a place for encouraging our spouses to use their God-given gifts in the workplace.
    Whether a family chooses to devote a parent to be full-time at home, or whether a family chooses to strike a delicate balance between two jobs and family responsibilities, all families have difficult choices to make on this topic. I prefer to think that some make this choice more thoughtfully and intentionally than others. And, of course, some families have no choice but to rely on daycare. But for those that choose to utilize daycare in some capacity, I don’t think we should be so quick to write off their intentions.

  2. I’m not intellectual enough to render deep reflections on this. No way I could write a book on the diminishing role of fathers in our society. All I know is, Father Knows Best…meaning Father God Knows Best. The family unit He designed is flawless…the mother is indispensable, and so is the father.
    Take one parent away and the odds of their children reaching spiritual potential diminish severely. It can be accomplished – as proven repeatedly by extraordinary single parents. But the “good kid” is much more often the product of a nurturing mother AND father.
    A different kind of crisis that I’m sorrowful about is the reliance on day-care by millions of parents in the U.S. For 8-12 hours a day, impressionable young souls are placed in the hands of surrogate parents. In many cases, this occurs because the parents want two incomes to maintain the lifestyle to which they have become accustomed. Oh, at what cost?!!!