How Much Should I Share with My Spouse?


How much of what happens at church should be shared with our spouses? The short answer: What builds trust in marriage, and unity of heart in ministry.

Looking back, I did our young marriage no favors by sharing everything that happened at church with Emily. I would come home, and she would ask how my day was. My response on a bad day was to lay out all the frustrating or hurtful stuff that happened. My response on a good day was, “fine.” This influenced Emily’s view of the church and ministry as a whole—though she’s always had her own mind on the subject :)

This is still a work in progress, but, I’d like to think I’ve gotten a bit better at discerning what and how to share ministry with Emily. Here are some observations.

Two Ministry-Saving Spiritual Practices

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Two spiritual practices have allowed me to stay in ministry for 17 years and still enjoy it. They won’t be found among the spiritual classics, other than through application of “classic” disciplines. However, ideas like “prayer,” “love”, “sabbath,” etc., still must be applied. It’s one thing to say “I should pray more.” It’s another to craft a doable plan for cultivating a more prayerful life. Here are two tangible ministry practices that have helped me weather extreme ministry storms.

Friday Stream of Consciousness – 40

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Here are some things I’m thinking about this Friday morning: Happy 40th weekiversary to this humble column. What started out as a place to dump thoughts not worthy of a full post–or even a tweet–has become one of the blogs most popular features. I enjoy writing it…thanks for reading. One obligatory thought, post-mortem, on Chick-fil-A […]