Sex and money are the two subjects that I believe are the most taboo subjects to talk about openly in the church…certainly from the pulpit. Not coincidentally, sex and money are the two venues in which Satan seems to be gaining ground in the lives of God's people.
Right now, I'm preaching through the book of Proverbs, which speaks of sexuality a great deal–especially in chapters 5-7. It's virtually impossible to preach Proverbs and not get into the subject of sexuality. Part two will be this Sunday. This past Sunday, I focused on the fact that God actually desires for us to have abundant and joyful sex within the confines of marriages. One of the passages we spoke of was the following:
“Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of
your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe. Let her breasts fill you at all
times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.” Proverbs 5:18-19
It isn't one I use as a wedding vow when I perform marriage ceremonies. It isn't probably the best refrigerator magnet Scripture in the world. But, man, is it important to sexual purity. Sexual purity isn't about the squelching of desire, it's about learning to desire rightly. Desiring rightly means, as the Proverbs writer says, delighting and desiring the one that God has given us to desire. We channel our desire toward "the wife of our youth."
We aren't animals. We're created in God's image, and given desire by Him. God can purify our desires.
Some will ask, "how am I supposed to keep my thought world pure when I’m
surround by commercials, media, internet stuff that is designed to make me
think about sex. How am I supposed to not look when someone that hot walks by
me?" By depending on God, and by purifying our eyes. Martin Luther once said, regarding keeping our lust in
check, “You can’t keep a bird from flying over your head, but you can keep it
from building a nest in your hair.” We must protect our eyes as we pursue holiness. God will accept and bless that sacrifice.
May the Lord keep his people from "nest-building," and fill us with intoxication for the love of our spouse. This is God's will for us in Christ: joyful and rich sexuality than can only be had to the full within the hot and pure garden of marriage.