Communication and Change

I love Edwin Friedman. If you haven’t read Generation to Generation, or A Failure of Nerve: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix…stop reading this blog and go to Amazon and buy them this instant. Here’s some classic Friedman:

The colossal misunderstanding of our time is the assumption
that insight will work with people who are unmotivated to change. Communication
does not depend on syntax, or eloquence, or rhetoric, or articulation but on
the emotional context in which the message is being heard. People can only hear
you when they are moving toward you, and they are not likely to when your words
are pursuing them. Even the choices words lose their power when they are used
to overpower. Attitudes are the real figures of speech.

— Edwin H. Friedman

Dr. Tim Spivey is Pastor of New Vintage Church in Escondido, California. He is the author of numerous articles and one book, "Jesus: The Powerful Servant." A sought after speaker for events, Tim also serves as Adjunct Professor of Religion at Pepperdine University. Tim serves as a church consultant, and his writings are featured on numerous websites, including:, Church Executive magazine, Faith Village, Sermon Central, and Giving Rocket.

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