Better Sex, Part 4 – When You’ve Sinned Sexually

Painting-set_free_preview I'm not a flat view of sin (every sin is the same in God's eyes) guy because I don't think it holds up under biblical scrutiny. There is a greatest sin, and Paul singles out sexual sin as the only one that is a sin against one's own body. Sexual sin is destructive because it harms those victimized by it and harms, perhaps most of all, the one engaging in it.

However, sexual sin has born such a stigma in the Church I fear we often send the message that whoever sins sexually is Chief of Sinners, perverted, or worse. However, the truth is that on any given Sunday we are in the midst of many sexual sinners…those whose sin is known and those whose sin isn't. There are men and women who regularly use pornography, those in affairs (emotional or physical), and those who have sinned in times past in quite colorful ways. 

By stigmatizing sexual sin of heart or action the way we have, we make the situation worse. As we heighten shame in an effort to confront sin we also drive the sin further into private darkness for fear of discovery. In those private, dark places the Evil One can have His way. Sin must be brought to the light, and it's the task of the church to cultivate a community of grace in which that can happen–so sexual sin can be confessed and repented of, forgiveness can be received and people can be held accountable to a higher way of life.

Sexual sin is so, so dark. The good news here is that Jesus shines brighter than that darkness. Jesus loves us more than we love our sin. Jesus forgives and calls us to a higher way of life. Jesus offers victory over sexual temptation, sexual sin, and feelings of lasting guilt that threaten to suffocate any attempt at recovery. We won't stand and sing here…but this is an invitation all the same. God doesn't want His children to languish in sexual sin. So, if you're involved in something you shouldn't be:

Stop.

Repent.

Confess to Someone.

Get to the Root Cause and Let Jesus Heal You.

Let Jesus Empower You to live a holy life.

Be set free.

Jesus didn't die so you could be a slave. He died to set you free.

Dr. Tim Spivey is Lead Planter of New Vintage Church in San Diego, California. He is the author of numerous articles and one book, "Jesus: The Powerful Servant." A sought after speaker for events, Tim also serves as Adjunct Professor of Religion at Pepperdine University. Tim serves as a church consultant, and his writings are featured on ChurchLeaders.com, Church Executive magazine, Faith Village, Sermon Central, and Giving Rocket.

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